Be careful what you ask for

*sorry it's been a few weeks since my last blog. We have been in process of moving and getting internet and getting settled.

Be Careful What you Ask for

How many times have you wished for something or asked for something or prayed to God for something you wanted or wanted to do?  You finally get what you thought you wanted and you now have regret? dissapointment?  frustration?  Because what you thought you "wanted" or "needed" was not what you wanted, needed, or what was best for you? It may not even be what God intended for you?  Or it may be something God wanted you to have or do and you fight against it, even though you asked for it.

I'm not sure what your situation, problem, or what it is that your life doesn't have or you think you want, need, or have to change?  However, I do know that sometimes we ask for things we don't need, we want things that are not healthy for us, and we can even pray to God for things we know aren't in His will.

How can we avoid this?   I think 1.) You pray, but pray unbiased to God, and truly be open to His will, not yours. Not what you want or think you want or need, but pray for God to give you or do or show you what HE wants for your life.  2.)  Weigh the options.  You have to look at the pro's and con's and the positive and negatives of what you think you want or need or are asking for.  Take time to truly evaluate and see if what you want or asking for is because you are being selfish, might be being negatively influenced by someone or something, or just havent researched the consequences of if you actually got your wish. 3.)  Seek Godly counsel.  Sometimes we go around and ask for advice from people until we find one that tells us what we want to hear, so we think we got affirmation or justification to what we want.  However, this is wrong.  We need to talk to people we trust, know will tell be completely honest with us, and tell us like it is, and then we need to respect their honesty and thank them for being a real friend and consider highly their honest counsel.
4.) Change your mindset.  Stop being guided by emotions, feelings, pleasure, selfishness, fantasy, or lies.  Be realistic when you think you want something. Ask why do I really want this?  What is it I really hope to get out of this?  Is it truly worth it?  How am I going to feel once I get what I think I want?  We've got to think, evaluate, view, and pray with a right mindset that is open to the option of maybe what i'm asking for I don't need, don't really want, is not best for me, or will cause more problems.

These are just my suggestions from my experiences and the experiences I've seen in others, but I pray they help you.  We need to be very very careful what we ask for, what we pray for, and what we think we "want" or "need".  From a christian standpoint, we especially need to involve God in all things and seek His will and strive to live our lives with Him as our guide and helping us make our decisions and choices in daily life so that we don't do things or get things that will hurt us, cause us pain, or leave us with regret. 

Sometimes God will give us what we want, even though it's not His will because He's tired of our rebellious heart.

Psalm 81:12(NIV)

So I gave them over to their stubborn hearts to follow their own devices.

But, God truly wants us to use wisdom, discernment, and grow to what we ask for

Proverbs 4:26(NIV)Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways

Ask for God's will when we ask for anything, not "our" will, but God's!
1 John 5:14
This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.