Wednesday, February 29, 2012



Proverbs 18:2 (NIV)Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions

Many of you know what that stands for?  Mind Your Own Business.   I could save us all alot of trouble if we'd all be just as worried about our own business and lives as we are about others business and lives.  I am not saying we shouldn't care or be concerned about others, but at the same time, many of us are so busy wondering and worrying about what others are doing or not doing that we neglect ourselves, but even more, we can be over-stepping our boundaries as a friend or family member.

It's common sense to me really.  You got a friend or family member who has a drug or alcohol problem or has a cheating spouse, yes you may have an obligation to step in and intervene or try and help them, but in day to day life when we want to push our nose and opinions into other people's business where it doesn't belong we are wrong.

If a friend or family member asked for your advice, input, or opinion than you have every right to be  I their business because you've been invited, however if you are are neve invited, but still insist or pushing or prodding your nose or opinion into people's lives, you're going to find yourself with few friends and maybe a sore nose 8-).

There is a fine line between being a concerned/caring person and wanting to help others and being someone who is just very nosy and opinionated and wants to tell everyone else how they need to be living or what they need to be doing or not doing in their lives.  That is not healthy relationships to do your friends and family that way. 

How many times has someone gotten mad at you over something you said or did or a decision you made and it wasn't even their business or related to them in anyway?  How many times have you forced your opinion or view on someone and ever stopped to hear what they had to say or that maybe they didn't even ask for your input? Do you think maybe some people never ask for your opinion or advice because you are too opinionated or too nosy?  Think about it!  Might be time for you to take a hard look at yourself and evaluated your relationships.  

Do people respect you and your opinions?  Do people come to your for advice?   Do you respect other peoples business, boundaries, and lives?  Are you quick to get angry or excited over what someone else is doing or not doing even when it has nothing to do with you?   I admit I'm an opinionated person, and I'm not afraid to share my opinions with those that ask.  But, I try to respect those i care about and hope they do the same. 

I have people in my life who I go to because I respect their opinions and advice and I also avoid certain peole because I do not respect their opinions and advice because they have way too much of it and too little listening or respect for boundaries.    I think God calls us to love and care about people, but He also wants us to respect people's business, privacy, opinions, views,  and lives.

Do you want someone sticking their nose in your business where it doesn't belong? Or pushing their opinions on you when they were requested by you?  We would not want someone treating us that way, so why would we treat others that way?

Let's all do a better job of loving and respecting people and mind our own business and worry about being the person God wants us to be. 

I Thessalonaians 4:11b-12(NIV)
You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you, 12 so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.

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